Who are you looking for?

• I’ll keep all my options open and go for a general Singles dating service.
• I’m looking for a Black man only so a Black dating service is where I need to be.
• I’m looking for a great Jewish guy so I’ll join a Jewish dating service.
• I’m looking to date someone older just like me so Senior dating services would be the right choice!

What if you could find a partner just by signing up to one of these dating online services?

Keep in mind though with all the online dating services that pop up every month that you keep your guard up. This site only shows you trustworthy dating services that have been around for a long time and who have a good reputation (to uphold).

If you’re new to online dating start with these bigger names in the industry. You can always try a new service later when you know how it all works. For now stick to the big services.

Where would you find your dream guy?
Singles dating service
Black dating service
Senior dating services
Jewish dating service

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Keep in mind though that a free profile can get you a date as well but if you are really serious about finding a black single you should think about upgrading to a paid membership. When people pay a monthly fee to join a site they take it serious, and that’s the kind of guy you’re looking for.

Only upgrade to a paid membership if you are ready to start dating online otherwise it’s just a waste of money. You can set up your profile and wait for men to contact you and this may work but you need to take action too. That’s why it’s important to think about this before you sign up, if you’re not ready to contact guys wait until you are before you join even for a free membership.

If you want to improve your chances read the online dating tips on how to set up your profile to keep the men coming back!

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Being upfront about this is one of the major benefits of dating online. How many times have you been dating someone who was actually looking for the same thing you were? Most likely he was just having fun when you wanted something serious or the other way round. With dating online you can say what you’re looking for from the start and look for men who want the same.

OK now you’ve mentioned what kind of relationship you are looking for, either serious or something casual, you should think about what kind of man would be perfect for you. This is important too, you don’t want everyone emailing you and waste your time reading their emails when you could have been emailing men you would like to date.

This doesn’t mean you should make a list with all the things you dream guy should be, just stick to the basics at first. If you want to date a guy who doesn’t have kids say so now before you get to know someone and waste both your time. If you’re looking for someone who is into sports and healthy eating just as much as you are mention it in your profile.

You shouldn’t even have to write it in a list just make sure it comes through in your profile. If you are really into sports and healthy eating you should write about it in your profile, someone who lives of junk food knows he’s not right for you when he reads that.

If you’re perfect man must have the same religion or ethnic background you could always find an online dating service that is more specific to certain groups. This way you know the men there are looking for the same thing you are and you don’t have to worry about searching for these men on the general dating sites. With the biggest challenge now gone you can just focus on the fun things!

Remember that it’s hard to find the perfect guy even online and when you start out you should keep your options open and not scare too many guys off with you’re “must have” list. Think about your big “deal breakers” and stick to that for now. You don’t want to miss someone who could be perfect for you!

You shouldn’t only worry about the criminals looking for your identity or to hurt you in other ways. But there are also people online who you wouldn’t trust with your details in the real world and you need to protect yourself until you know someone well enough to give him this information.

Always trust your gut feeling but if your gut needs some extra help you should use these tips to set up your online profile, especially if you sign up for a free account.

Never use your full name
If you’re setting up your account just use your first name or even better pick a username you can use in all your communications. When someone knows your full name it’s easy to find out more by just going to facebook or any other social network and try to find out more about you there.

This isn’t as hard as it used to be with now almost everyone on the planet has a facebook account or uses a different social network to hang out with their friends (where you don’t have your guard up). It’s not just criminals you need to worry about, do you really want a potential partner seeing your facebook photos before he knows more about you?

Be careful with your location
If you live in a smaller town it’s not that hard to find out more about you especially if someone has other details already. If you live in a big(ger) city this becomes a bit harder but always be careful you don’t want strange men driving past your house every night.

Always use a cell phone
Never give out your landline number! It’s easy to get all your details from a landline number so if you want to date online and start chatting to guys on the phone either give out your cell number or invest in a “pay as you go” you can always give him your normal cell phone number once your dating seriously.

If you are serious go for a paid online dating service.
People who pay for an online dating service can be traced. Whether they use a credit card or any of the other payment options it leaves a trail that most people who joined for the wrong reasons want to avoid.

If someone has been a member for a few months he’s not likely using a stolen credit card. But just because someone pays for a service doesn’t mean he’s who he says he is. Always trust your gut and try not to believe everything he’s saying until you have some proof.

Everyone men and women should be picky who the give out there details to so if he doesn’t understand move on! It’s your safety your trying to protect.

Think about a username first. Don’t use anything sexy as this will probably attract the wrong crowd.
Use something you like to do but make sure it’s original and easy to remember. It’s best if you don’t have to add numbers at the end as that is easily mixed up with someone else and you don’t want to help the competition.

Sign up to the free email with only your username that way your real name is never shown even by mistake. And when you send a message only your username will show up as the sender and this is how you want to be known by men online anyway.

Even if the online dating service you signed up with offers a protected email account you need to start with an anonymous email. Those services can never guarantee that no hacker will break their security so do yourself a favor and sign up for a free email account.

Don’t worry about signing up this way, even the major online dating services advice you to use a free email account.

An advantage is that you can keep all your dating emails separate from your day to day emails where some might go missing. If you use different online dating services you can either use one free email account or set up an account for each service.

If you don’t know where to get a free email account that’s ok, you can get a free email account at yahoo or gmail in a few minutes and it’s really easy too.

Like in the real world there is a lot of pretending going on in online dating. Studies show there are many married people using online dating services. Some do this just to see what they are missing but wont do anything about it while others are maybe looking online to have an affair. However this is not fair to you!

When you are emailing a man for a while and you basically told him all he wanted to know but you still feel you know nothing about him it’s time to ask some questions. If he’s still not talking move on to someone else.

If he wants to know general stuff about you that’s perfectly fine but when the questions become more personal you should start to pay attention. When a guy keeps asking where you live or if he can have your home phone number and he doesn’t stop asking after you say no it’s time to end this conversation.

Sure men can be shy too and need some time to get going and that is perfectly fine maybe even a nice change but if they don’t reveal anything personal that is when you should start paying attention and trusting your instincts.

If it feels like the guy your chatting to is not paying attention or keeps disappearing all of a sudden (when he’s not at work) this could be a sign that he’s playing games with you. There can only be so many power cuts, don’t be gullible if he doesn’t have a good excuse don’t create one for him.

Anonymity is great to keep you safe but the downside is that you never really know who your dealing with. Most men who are serious about online dating won’t keep quit about themselves as it’s not helping them if they do.

But because of the anonymity there are always people online who take advantage of men and women who seem more desperate to find a date. It’s the law of the jungle, these predators won’t target you if you look like a confident and independent woman who just wants a man to share her life with especially when there are easier targets to find.

People can do a lot with your personal information so be careful what you tell them. Anonymity is a great thing when it comes to online dating but you never really know who you are talking to when you first start to communicate with new men. If you’re not sure what to do read these other posts on staying safe online.

But he needs to read what you wrote before he can email back and this is the first hurdle you need to overcome. You can blame him all you like when you don’t get a reply but just imagine how you would react if you got that an email in your very full inbox with a “hello” as a subject. Would you:
1. be very curious, you just have to open it right now!
2. think “I’ll read it later” as it doesn’t seem very interesting
3. not even notice it was there or maybe even think it was a spam email.

The chances are your dream guy is thinking the same thing. He wants to feel special just as much as you do! If he doesn’t open your email how can he get to know you or write back. You need to stand out in the inbox first and make sure he reads your email. Basicly “You had me at hello” just doesn’t work in online dating.

With most of your competition using just “Hi” it’s not hard to get noticed in the inbox. Have another look at his profile, does he mention anything you could respond to? Your one goal here it for him to be curious enough to open your email.

Keep in mind that most people check their email while they are at work or on their phone while waiting, stuck in traffic or on the train home, they one have a few second each and every time the log in and only open the emails they find important at that point. Maybe they will read all the other emails later when they are at home but you don’t want to be one of those emails.

Whether your writing your first or 10th email make sure you are different than all the other women emailing this guy. Be creative and make sure your subject line catches his eye as soon as he checks his inbox. Get him to open your email and you’ve raised your chances of getting a date big time!

Would you write back to what seems to be an automated email? No you won’t either so why expect him to email back. Maybe you can’t send as many emails but you will get more replies and that’s what you’re after! It’s all about quality not quantity.

The first thing you need to do is to get your email opened by writing an interesting subject line. You’ll see that most other women don’t take the time to come up with something that makes him want to read their email so if you do your chances are way better!

When he opens your email you’ve lost most of your competition as other women just stick to “hi” and now you have his undivided attention for at least a few seconds, you need to leave a great first impression. If you don’t seem interesting he’s not going to read after the first 2 lines. Keep him reading your whole email and chances are high that he will reply.

Show him that you took the time to read his profile!
Just take 1 or 2 things from his profile you think you can find something interesting to ask about or you can make a funny comment on. Now you’re inviting him to write back with an answer to your question or a remark on your comment and you’ve started a conversation.

Don’t use everything he mentions in his profile, you need to save something for your second email. Check again that he doesn’t answer these questions in his profile and don’t bombard him with questions either just keep it light and fun.

Tell him a little bit about yourself too, just enough to get him interested in who you are and what you like to do. This is not the time to tell him your life story, let your profile tell him that if he wants to get to know you too.

Keep this email short, to the point and not too serious, this is just a quick email to let him know you are interested in getting to know him better.

When you use shortcuts or text language you and your friends know what you mean but when you use it in your profile not everyone else gets what your trying to say or appreciates it, they may even think you don’t know how to spell. OK you don’t want to please everyone but if you want to keep your options open your best chances are to use normal words like the rest of us.

Many of us are not the best spellers in the world to begin with and when we write our profile or emails online and not on our own computer we can make silly spelling mistakes. But if you take online dating seriously a spell checker really is a girls best friend!

When you read a profile or email with many misspellings or grammatical errors you don’t get the best first impression of that person. However nice he may be you still think he could have taken the effort to check his spelling as it’s so easy to do. You’re not the only one who thinks that, bad grammar and spelling are one of the biggest turn offs in online dating!

This is not what we want happening to you so before you hit the send or publish button check your spelling and grammar again. We all make mistakes so don’t worry about that but misspellings are easily fixed by running your text through a spell checker.

When you write your profile and edit it a few times your sentences might not make sense anymore or miss a word here and there, because you’ve been working on it for a while you don’t see these little mistakes. What you can do is save it and check it again in a few hours, the next day or let a friend proof read your profile.

Don’t let this stop you writing emails and setting up dating profiles! Remember we all make mistakes and that’s ok, just be yourself and write like you talk as this is more natural to you anyway. If men don’t like it they’re probably not right for you anyway but to increase your chances just use all the tools on your computer before you hit send!

Some dating online services allow you to add a so called headline or tagline. This is an extra chance along with your photo and username to get people to read your profile. Or as said before an extra opportunity to sell yourself.

Some services pick this tagline from the first few lines of your profile and this can create some weird sentence so if you have the chance to create a headline yourself it will give you a chance to stand out from the crowd.

Always try to find out how many characters (including spaces) you can use in this line. You don’t want to write a headline that’s too long and will be cut off at a point that turns your tagline into something that doesn’t make sense.

Writing a tagline to get people interested isn’t easy but there are some ways to do this. Think about advertising campaigns you like and why you liked them, it probably had something to do with the punch line. Advertising companies are selling a product, you try to sell your profile!

Use a variation of a quote you like or a line from your favorite movie, if you have a sense of humor show it here. If you like this idea but lack the inspiration just search the internet for “funny quotes”, “funny taglines” or “best dating profile headlines” and you’ll find inspiration. Pick a quote that fits with your profile, you don’t want to seem funny here and bore them into leaving your profile once they’ve clicked through.

You can’t please everybody so don’t try to be everything to everyone. Some people might not get your joke or like your sense of humor but you don’t want to date those people anyway so nothings lost.